This concept isn't always so easy for Westerners to accept. When I was first injured, I would have thought the idea ludicrous. The source of my pain was obvious-I'd been in a serious auto accident. Case closed.

But when traditional medicine failed to help me heal, I began exploring alternative medicine. The more I read, the more I learned about the number of ways that our beliefs and ideas impact our body. I began to understand that the rage I held inside–rage against the man that recklessly caused the accident, rage against the doctors that carelessly misdiagnosed me, rage against the insurance company that closed and left me stranded–all that boiling rage was standing in the way of my recovery.

It wasn't easy to let go of that rage. After all, it was completely justified. All those people had caused me to suffer, yet they had moved on with their lives without so much as a slap on the hand. I wanted justice, and knowing there would be none left me filled with fury.

But book after book, scientific study after scientific study, told me the same story. Our brains react instantly to our thoughts and emotions, releasing millions of combinations of chemicals in instant response to everything that passes through our mind.

I knew I had to find a way to release my rage, and with much work and over time, I did. Since then, I've continued to study brain function, hypnosis and what some call emotional or energy medicine. And a couple of years ago I came across a field of energy medicine called EFT, emotional freedom technique.

EFT is a way of tapping into and resolving painful emotions by tapping on your body. It's one of the first techniques I turn to when I need physical or emotional help. I consider it my first aid kit. But a few weeks ago, even though I needed help badly, I seemed helpless to help myself.

I was getting ready to go to a 4-day seminar on internet marketing when I slipped and twisted my knee. Nothing seemed broken or torn, so I wasn't overly concerned. And I knew, from years of physical therapy, how to care for it.

But after the first day of the seminar, I was a wreck. To walk, I was shifting all my weight to the right, to protect my left knee. Doing that put my spine out of whack, and I now had a nagging backache as well as a throbbing knee. I knew I'd better start using a cane to keep me standing straight while my knee healed. So that night, on the way home from the seminar, I stopped at a drug store and bought a spiffy blue cane with a comfortable handle.

I instantly felt more comfortable walking, but as I left the drug store, something came trailing behind me. It was a swarm of negative emotions and fears that followed me home, settling on me like little black flies, biting and pinching me. I tried to brush them away, but as I fell asleep, they invaded my dreams. I got little rest that night.

The next day, I walked into the seminar with my cane and was again overwhelmed with painful emotions. Everything I'd been though in the past came alive again. I vividly remembered using first a walker, and later a cane. I remembered people making unkind remarks and ridiculous assumptions when I was slow crossing a street or moving through the grocery store. And the more I remembered, the more my knee throbbed and the worse I felt.

I didn't make it through the last day of the seminar. And all the next week I was so worn out from pain I could barely get my work done. Mail and housework piled up, making me feel more stressed, more afraid, more angry at myself for not taking control of the situation and doing—- well, doing what? My knee needed time to heal. Wasn't I using a knee brace, a cane, exercise and infrared heat? 

Wasn't I doing everything I could? I was not. And I knew it. I purposely wasn't using EFT, the Emotional Freedom Technique, to resolve the leftover feelings that damn cane had awakened. Worse, I didn't know why I wasn't using EFT. Some part of me seemed stubbornly resolved to stay in turmoil.

I've seen this in other people, this digging in and accepting pain without doing everything we can to resolve it. I don't know where it comes from or why we do it. I just know it's common.

I knew I had to motivate myself to move forward. But it took me a few days to come up with enough motivation just to motivate myself! To do that, I used a technique I learned in NLP (nuerolinguistic programming). I made a list of things I badly wanted to do, things I would not be able to do if I didn't get out of the unresouceful state of mind I was in.

When the pain of potentially missing out on those events became greater than the pain of making myself take action….I took action. I started using EFT to tap into my emotions and resolve them.

I'd clearly been shown there was a lot of leftover fear and anger from that auto accident that needed to be put to rest. There were lots of new fears, too, fears about the economy, about growing older and declining, as well as lingering grief from the death of my dearest friend last November.

I'm still working my way through some of those issues. My knee is getting better. And I have a better understanding of how deeply our emotions stay buried, not just in our minds but in our bones and muscles and nerves.

There are many ways of resolving emotional pain. I have used EFT effectively, as well as hypnosis and neurolinguistic programming. There are also techniques like Reiki or Rolfing or massage therapy that release emotional pain though physical work. And when the right person is available, therapy with a psychologist or mental health counselor can be a blessing.

The challenge is not to find a method of healing emotions-there are many– but simply to motivate yourself to take a step emotional healing. Don't be afraid to try a technique, or as I did, many techniques. Unlike surgery or drugs, no harm can come from these gentle forms of therapy. When one is right for you, you will feel it. And feel, too, how much physical pain is lifted when emotional pain is released.

### Bonnie Boots publishes Pain Health News to provide news, information and motivation to people living with pain.  You can stay in touch with her by adding your email address to the subscribe form located in the upper right corner. For an eye-opening look at EFT, read this very interesting article  at  Emofree about demonstrating EFT to a group of doctors, and how it was used on stage for pain from a broken wrist. or this one–Did Karen’s physical scars disappear as she did EFT on her emotional scars?

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Over the last 2 days, with much of North America caught in the icy grip of a major winter storm, even Florida has felt the brunt of those cold northern winds. Our temperatures have dropped into the 40’s. True, that’s not much by Northern standards, but for those of us who live in the Sunshine State, it feels like a new Ice Age has descended. And my bones don’t like it one bit.

My whole body aches. My fingers have lost their dexterity and all I want to do is curl up in a ball and sleep until it’s over. But that’s something I rarely let myself do. For years, that was my main pain strategy—take a pill and sleep as much as possible, hoping that when I woke it would all be better. But it didn’t get better. Not until I stopped running from pain and confronted it head on.

In order to move past chronic pain, I had to adopt a whole new attitude, one that wouldn’t hide under the covers at every twitch of a nerve. So yesterday, for instance, while cold was making my bones creak, I sat right here at the keyboard working. I wasn’t thinking very clearly and I certainly wasn’t typing very fast, but I was working.

Between bouts of work, I took breaks for hot showers and sit-downs in my massage chair. I listened to my hypnosis tapes. I did my EFT tapping. I did gentle exercise. And I kept my inner talk positive. “Pain can’t stop me,” I told myself. “ Today’s not the best day I’ve had, but it’s far from the worst!”

All that’s in far contrast to what I did and thought when pain was my daily companion. I used to drug myself, curl up in a ball and cry, “I can’t take it. I can’t stand this. I can’t do this.”

Everyone that suffers from chronic pain know this—chronic pain robs you of your self-esteem. You doubt your sanity. You doubt your decisions. You doubt your ability to cope.

 Pain and negative inner talk left me feeling both powerless and hopeless. That’s a lethal combination. To save myself from both, I used hypnosis tapes and CD’s to transform my thinking.. I learned to keep my inner talk positive. And I learned that my attitude was the most powerful pain management tool I have.

One of the programs I worked with that made a real difference in my life is “Core Inner Strength,” a 2-CD set by Dr. Shirley McNeal. At a time when I was feeling worthless, hopeless and weak. Dr. McNeal’s program turned my attitude around. It helped me find the self-confidence I needed to stop cowering from chronic pain. That’s why, yesterday, I didn’t cower in bed. I got up and took action, because I know, beyond any shadow of doubt, I have the inner-strength to do anything I set my mind to.

I regard “Core Inner Strength” as one of the key skills every pain patient needs to learn. You can read all about the "Core Inner Strength" program here: http://www.hypnosisnetwork.com/hypnosis/self_esteem.php It comes with my highest recommendation!

### Bonnie Boots publishes Pain Health News to provide information and motivation to people living with chronic pain.  You can stay in touch with her by typing your email address into the subscribe box in the upper right corner of this page.