Comments on: What Do You Do When Chronic Pain Robs You Of Your Identity? http://painhealthnews.com/archives/52 Information and motivation for people in pain Thu, 01 Jul 2010 11:59:53 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Kevin Lyle http://painhealthnews.com/archives/52/comment-page-1#comment-48 Kevin Lyle Tue, 03 Feb 2009 21:19:32 +0000 http://painhealthnews.com/?p=52#comment-48 Lonelyness especially when linked to illness is really tough to bear, but here follows my simple view & what I find helps me. It all seems well to begin with, your work colleages keep in touch or call around to visit & so do your friends but slowly as you are unable to get about & you can't keep social events or go to the pub(bar), your contacts begin to fall away. It is natural when you think about it, the office has to run efficiently, the social scene carries on & the talk is all about the good topical events no-one wants to be reminded of illness so we begin to fade as far as their memory is concerned. In short people get on with their lives. Unfortunately this doesn't help with the problem & feelings of being alone & the despair that goes with it. On the other hand if we were to openly ask our friends about this they would be horrified that we would ever think such a thing. I have battled with these feelings for the past five years, initially you can convince yourself that it will only be temporary then you can revert to normality, but when that term slips by then what? As I have mentioned previously I am lucky to have a caring wife who is also a Staff Nurse, she still works & helps wherever she can but I am alone when she is at work. I know that she keeps a close eye on my mood & state of mind but at the end of the day I am a fairly positive person & I am used to working alone & generally looking after my own problems. It is not easy to discuss feelings of stress or anxiety, that was until a year following the death of my Father, when I suddenly found myself out of control, I fell apart & I didnt know why, at least not at that point. It was only after a course of counseling that I understood why it had come to this & what steps to take in order to avoid or lessen the risk of it happening again. Well that was the idea. I believe the trick is to keep busy & in the case of a lack of mobility then keep the mind busy. I have come to accept that my condition is not going to improve much in the way of mobility & my pain control gives me concerns. However the thing that has saved me from total despair has been being able to use my laptop. I have been looking into alternatives to my old occupation as a financial advisor, the main aims are to reduce the amount of driving I did & to maintain the same level of income. The more I searched the more I grew interested in working online, so with this in mind I have looked into several different ways of earning online. I am now getting to the stage where I have sufficient knowledge to allow me to move forward in this capacity. I just need to build my technical skills:) It doesn't matter what it is, My advice is to get comfortable & keep busy. Good Luck To All Lonelyness especially when linked to illness is really tough to bear, but here follows my simple view & what I find helps me.
It all seems well to begin with, your work colleages keep in touch or call around to visit & so do your friends but slowly as you are unable to get about & you can’t keep social events or go to the pub(bar), your contacts begin to fall away.
It is natural when you think about it, the office has to run efficiently, the social scene carries on & the talk is all about the good topical events no-one wants to be reminded of illness so we begin to fade as far as their memory is concerned. In short people get on with their lives. Unfortunately this doesn’t help with the problem & feelings of being alone & the despair that goes with it. On the other hand if we were to openly ask our friends about this they would be horrified that we would ever think such a thing.
I have battled with these feelings for the past five years, initially you can convince yourself that it will only be temporary then you can revert to normality, but when that term slips by then what?
As I have mentioned previously I am lucky to have a caring wife who is also a Staff Nurse, she still works & helps wherever she can but I am alone when she is at work. I know that she keeps a close eye on my mood & state of mind but at the end of the day I am a fairly positive person & I am used to working alone & generally looking after my own problems. It is not easy to discuss feelings of stress or anxiety, that was until a year following the death of my Father, when I suddenly found myself out of control, I fell apart & I didnt know why, at least not at that point. It was only after a course of counseling that I understood why it had come to this & what steps to take in order to avoid or lessen the risk of it happening again. Well that was the idea.
I believe the trick is to keep busy & in the case of a lack of mobility then keep the mind busy. I have come to accept that my condition is not going to improve much in the way of mobility & my pain control gives me concerns.
However the thing that has saved me from total despair has been being able to use my laptop.
I have been looking into alternatives to my old occupation as a financial advisor, the main aims are to reduce the amount of driving I did & to maintain the same level of income.
The more I searched the more I grew interested in working online, so with this in mind I have looked into several different ways of earning online. I am now getting to the stage where I have sufficient knowledge to allow me to move forward in this capacity. I just need to build my technical skills:)
It doesn’t matter what it is, My advice is to get comfortable & keep busy.

Good Luck To All

]]> By: Bonnie Boots http://painhealthnews.com/archives/52/comment-page-1#comment-47 Bonnie Boots Tue, 03 Feb 2009 02:08:05 +0000 http://painhealthnews.com/?p=52#comment-47 Gunvi, I do believe that suffering pain can lead to spiritual development. I also know that it can lead to personal development. The old maxim says "That which does not kill me makes me stronger." Because I was so challenged by pain, I had to work "inner muscles" I hadn't developed before--muscles named "courage" and "determination" and "patience." I'm a much stronger and more capable person today because pain taught me what I was capable of. Gunvi, I do believe that suffering pain can lead to spiritual development. I also know that it can lead to personal development. The old maxim says “That which does not kill me makes me stronger.” Because I was so challenged by pain, I had to work “inner muscles” I hadn’t developed before–muscles named “courage” and “determination” and “patience.” I’m a much stronger and more capable person today because pain taught me what I was capable of.

]]> By: Gunvi Sund http://painhealthnews.com/archives/52/comment-page-1#comment-46 Gunvi Sund Mon, 02 Feb 2009 23:01:12 +0000 http://painhealthnews.com/?p=52#comment-46 I lost many valuable years being in pain from fibro and sleep apnea. The doctors took ten years to figure it out and my life spiraled slowly downwards to nothingness. It will take may years to recover from this, if ever. I used to soothe myself thinking that at least I did a lot of inner spiritual work while my body slept and that I was burning off lots of Karma when in pain. Many times I wished I could slip away from this world, just to get some relief. I understand that we are developing spiritually the whole time and if we hang in there perhaps we won't be completly healed but there may be a new drug or treatment avaliable all of a sudden that can help us. Love in Spirit, Gunvi I lost many valuable years being in pain from fibro and sleep apnea. The doctors took ten years to figure it out and my life spiraled slowly downwards to nothingness. It will take may years to recover from this, if ever. I used to soothe myself thinking that at least I did a lot of inner spiritual work while my body slept and that I was burning off lots of Karma when in pain. Many times I wished I could slip away from this world, just to get some relief. I understand that we are developing spiritually the whole time and if we hang in there perhaps we won’t be completly healed but there may be a new drug or treatment avaliable all of a sudden that can help us. Love in Spirit, Gunvi

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